Dating divorced man with children
If your boyfriend's kids don't seem to want you to spend time with him, aren't overjoyed to have you in the house or act out, when he tells them that you are spending time with him, keep in mind that it's not necessarily you that they don't like.
He may act romantically distant in front of the kids, which is completely normal.This is a man who once loved his wife, believed in marriage and the family dream, and committed himself to making it work. But that doesn’t mean it’s your job to deal with it, especially when he might be stuck in this state indefinitely.Accepting that that dream has died – and that he –is a painful process that requires the healing hands of time. It amazes me how many men are two, three, even important and it’s far more than “just a piece of paper.” In addition to providing some legal closure, it brings more emotional closure. Your separated man could be angry at many things: himself, a legal battle, women in general, even life.That’s energy and space that he can’t and won’t channel into you in positive ways. He doesn’t consistently spend time with his children.You also end up keeping company with someone who is aloof, moody, defensive and/or crabby. If your separated man isn’t seeing much of his kids, this should be seen as a warning, not a “bonus” (cause it’s more time spent with you, right? One reason he’s not parenting could be because he and his wife are disagreeing over child custody and access.